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Posted by cadivorceblawg on September 15, 2009
If you get divorced and are the parent of a minor child, you should consider the possibility of co-parenting. While divorce means the end of your marriage, it does not have to mean the end of your parenting relationship. The transition may be difficult for you, but is always much worse for your child. Would you rather have your child feeling lost and stuck in the middle during and after the divorce, or would you prefer your child to have two safe and loving homes?
What is Co-Parenting?
Co-parenting means that you and your ex-spouse keep raising your child together, even after your divorce or separation. You continue to share all the parental responsibilities and privileges and give your child the consistency in life it needs. While you are now living in two separate households, the goal is for both of you to stay as involved as possible in the life of your child.
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Posted by cadivorceblawg on September 2, 2009
In a previous article, “Children and Divorce Mediation,” I compared the impact of litigation versus mediation on your children during your divorce. More and more parents decide that mediation is a better solution for themselves and for their children. Yet, many still wonder whether and if so how much children are included in the mediation process.
Undoubtedly, your children’s best interests are an important aspect of your mediation and will be at the forefront during the parenting or custody sessions. However, it is important to keep in mind that the negotiations take place between you, the adults, and that you make the final decisions. Your children should not make your decisions for you, but their input can be invaluable.
Maybe you already talked to your children and have an idea of what they want. If you are uncertain or are having trouble talking to your children, there are other options available to get your children’s input during the mediation:
- The mediator can interview the children him- or herself; or
- A therapist or child specialist can interview the children.
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Posted by cadivorceblawg on June 23, 2009
When you decide to get a divorce, every choice you make will not only have consequences for you but also for your children.
Divorce is stressful for children. Usually, one parent will move out and the child gets to spend less time with him or her. During this period, children often feel abandoned and sometimes even believe that they are the cause of the divorce. They often do not understand why their life is changing so significantly and feel insecure and lost.
Litigating your Divorce
Getting a divorce in court can complicate matters. Most likely, you will be more stressed than normal, and if you are under stress, so are your children. The court system is adversarial and all that matters in court is winning your case. Children and their needs usually get lost in the chaos. Children are also often used to gain advantages, and decisions are made without the child’s best interest in mind.
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